Align

It takes a lot of aligning to get together, let alone for two from drastically different background. It is a painful process to discover the mismatch of expectations, to crystallize and pinpoint the issue and to spell out each other's stand. Feelings are hurt, bad thoughts are open in the air... but the end is extremely gratifying because you know the other person has complete faith in you to tell you what he truly thinks, and believes the two will come to a common ground.