Detach 'me' and 'concept'

It gets too personal, when I feel I am being judged no matter whether there is really any judgment imposed on me. This impedes learning and upsets those whose intention is to help. I need to catch myself the moment I get strangled in explaining why I am the way I am, what's wrong with me, etc. Instead, take the new concept as a concept by itself. Understand it, absorb it. Then see where I am against it and how I can embrace the new learning.